What’s Standing Between You and Your Version of Success?
What if the only thing standing between you and your version of success… is you?
I recently spoke to someone who had so many amazing opportunities in front of her—but she just couldn’t walk through the door. It made me wonder: how many of us are unknowingly sabotaging our own success?
When Motivation Isn’t the Problem
I was talking to a business owner struggling to grow her business. She had big dreams and the skills to make them happen, yet nothing seemed to click. At first, she thought maybe she didn’t know where to start—but that wasn’t the issue either.
I asked her a simple question: Are you sabotaging your own success?
And that hit. She realized she was.
As we dug deeper, it became clear why: she didn’t feel worthy of the success she wanted. She was scared of the next steps, afraid of what would come from stepping into the spotlight. Even though she’s motivated, a risk-taker, and goal-oriented, fear was holding her back.
Mindset Blocks Are Sneaky
This isn’t about laziness or lack of effort—it’s mindset. And here’s the thing: I’ve struggled with this too. When I worked with a coach on my own mindset, we uncovered my fear of making money and being successful.
For many women, there’s this internalized message: wanting money or wanting to succeed can feel “wrong” or “greedy.” We’re often taught that we should just want to help others, not make a profit. This is not just a societal narrative—it’s a real barrier that holds women back.
Why We Choose the “Easy” Path
Humans naturally want the easy route. It feels safe. Back in caveman days, survival meant avoiding risk. But here’s the catch: the “easy” route isn’t always best.
If you’re hustling constantly, that might feel comfortable because it’s what you know.
If you’re avoiding a healthier lifestyle, it’s “easier” to stay in old habits than to start meal prepping or going to the gym.
If you’re stuck in anxious thought patterns, it’s easier to replay them than to challenge them.
The mind protects us from change because change is unknown. The easy way is familiar. It feels safe.
But the easiest choice is not always the choice that leads to growth, success, or fulfillment.
Fear of Success Is Real
Sometimes we sabotage ourselves not because we’re afraid to fail—but because we’re afraid to succeed.
What will having more money mean?
How will friends and family react?
Will having more time or more responsibility actually bring more stress?
Success feels scary because it changes things. And change is uncomfortable.
But here’s the truth: if we truly wanted something and weren’t afraid of it, we’d take the steps. We’d follow the map. And yes, there is a map—there are systems, strategies, guides, and examples of people who have achieved exactly what you want.
It takes work, consistency, patience, mindset shifts, and, importantly, blind faith. Blind faith that if you follow the steps, you will get there—even when you can’t see the full path yet.
Stop Self-Sabotaging
The person I was speaking with had everything: a great business, a clear vision, skills that could help countless people. And yet, she wasn’t taking the steps she needed. Why? Mindset. Fear. Self-sabotage.
And Here’s My Invitation To You
Take a moment to reflect.
Where might you be holding yourself back?
What fears are keeping you from stepping into your potential?
What “easy” habits or old patterns are preventing growth?
Recognize them. Name them. And take just one intentional step toward breaking through.
You have the skills. You have the potential. You have the opportunities. Don’t let fear—or old habits—stop you from claiming your success.
I’d love to hear your thoughts: have you noticed areas where you might be self-sabotaging? What steps could you take today to move past that? Share your reflections in the comments or journal them quietly—it’s all part of stepping into your full potential.
Watch the full video version of this blog here: What's REALLY Holding You Back from Achieving Success?